And the saga continues . I am still working on planning that big day . my wedding.
The plans have become so overwhelming that now my poor fianc is begging to elope. However, the fairy tale must come true, so we persevere through well-intentioned dictating friends and major changes.
The wedding is not for four months, but even planning to plan is engulfing us in panic.
I have one suggestion to all of those out there planning on ever getting married: Don’t wait until the last minute, don’t wait until the last month, not even the last year.
When it comes to reserving the church/chapel and reception area and room for the honeymoon, you’d be surprised how far in advance this stuff is booked.
We were planning our honeymoon for Gatlinburg, but have been recently informed that we have no chance of getting a decent, yet economical room in any hotel there during the month of July.
Oops.
Now we’re going to have to come up with an alternative that doesn’t involve thousands of dollars that we don’t have.
The reception has also been topic of great tension.
My family, as well as myself, are Christians with moral ideals. However, those ideals are not always the same. For our first dance as man and wife, John and I planned to do a wild and fun Salsa or Cha-Cha, something that is very symbolic for us.
We met dancing and we have danced faithfully since. We both enjoy the sexy Latin rhythms, but my poor mother is mortified that I would consider displaying myself like that among friends and family.
I, personally, see nothing wrong with dancing, nor does my mother, however, she is one who would never consider “rocking the boat.”
Since the question of the morality of dance is one with diverse answers, she prefers to avoid the potential confrontation altogether.
Along those same lines, what about the garter-toss? While I don’t think I want John taking the garter off with his teeth in front of my father (if dancing is considered wrong, I can’t imagine the response the garter would get!), shouldn’t we still reserve the right to make that decision?
What do we do? I guess I just have to keep reminding myself of one very important fact that John and I learned at an engagement seminar: a wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime.
So, I suppose I’ll allow myself to “go with the flow” during the wedding because all of the plans that follow will be solely the decision of John and myself.

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