Last Wednesday, David Coleman, popularly known as the Dating Doctor, delivered directives to the dating impaired, and taught students everything from the true meaning of love to how to break up with a significant other.
Coleman explained that the goal of his program was to raise relationship I.Q.
At the beginning of the presentation, he asked, “Which person in a relationship has the most control?”
He then explained that it is the person who loves the least who exerts more control over their partner.
“This is because the other person will do anything to keep the relationship intact,” he said.
In a healthy relationship, the strong takes care of the weak, but in an unhealthy one, the strong takes advantage of the weak. Further, he said that agape love – a Greek term meaning a self-giving love that grows stronger – must precede eros love, which is focused on sexuality, in order for a relationship to prosper.
For those who were looking to get out of a relationship, Coleman said that the best way to break up with someone was to shift as much as of the blame as possible upon yourself and then move on.
“It is important to show respect for the other person, because what you are saying is ‘I don’t want to see you anymore on a daily basis,'” he said.
According to Coleman, the top reasons that relationships end before marriage include disputes over alcohol, money and jealousy.
“The most common reason for divorce is boredom,” he said.
Coleman turned a great deal of the program over to the audience. Throughout the show, he got students involved, especially in his “Pick-up Line Challenge.”
Students were encouraged to read the first line of the best (or worst) pick-up line they had ever heard, and Coleman was challenged to finish the statement. Small prizes were offered to any student who could stump Coleman.
Coleman also announced the top 10 worst pick-up lines, one of which was “Baby, I want to lock you up in my closet and keep you.”
“That’s a bad pick-up because it’s a felony!” he said.
This performance marked Coleman’s last of the season. This fall, the Dating Doctor has made 81 appearances in 41 states.
He has visited over 2,100 college campuses during his career, giving a total 3,500 shows.
He has been recognized as the 2001 Speaker of the Year by the NACA and Campus Activities Magazine. His “Creative Dating” program was recognized as the 2001 program of the year and has been nominated for the same honor in 2002.
Coleman’s program was sponsored by Sigma Kappa Sorority and the Student Government Association.
“We saw him speak at our national convention,” said Rachel Ralston, Sigma Kappa president. “He’s very entertaining and energetic. He offers a lot of new perspectives.”
Although admission was free, donations were taken at the door for the September 11th fund.
“We thought that this would be a good way to raise money for those affected by the World Trade Center disaster,” Ralston said.
For more information on David Coleman or to read his free dating tips, log on to his web site at www.datingdoctor.com.

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