A little less conversation, a little more action, please.
All this aggravation ain’t satisfactioning me.
A little more bite and a little less bark,
A little less fight and a little more spark.
Close your mouth and open up your heart,
And baby satisfy me
– Elvis Presley, “A Little Less Conversation”When did being friendly to a guy become an invitation for sex?
A couple of weeks ago I was hanging out at a local coffeehouse when I met up with a male friend of mine. I never thought that this guy had any interest in me, mainly because I don’t have any romantic interest in him. After hanging out for a couple of hours, he tries to kiss me.
Under certain circumstances, this might be OK. But the man is 23 years older than me, and the attempted kiss was unsolicited.
I tactfully got myself out of the situation and made myself scarce. But that’s when I started to wonder. Where in our conversation (about our moms, of all non-sexy things) did I send out the “Take me now” signal?
All I did was be myself. Sure, I did talk to this guy, along with many other people, for a couple of hours, but why can’t we just have a friendly conversation?
This hasn’t just happened to me, either. One of my friends recently consoled a male friend who had gone through a breakup. She lent her shoulder to be cried on, and all it got her was an invitation back to his house. And an apology the next morning for his actions. She became a victim of unsolicited affection.
What has happened to the world? I never thought the day would come when I don’t want to go out and meet new people. I like to make friends, and I would like to keep most of those people as friends – not as potential stalkers.
No offense to men, but not every woman wants to sleep with you. Sometimes you should just be friends. And that’s not a bad thing. Guys need girl-friends (not to be confused with girlfriends) around for a few reasons: 1) To make sure they don’t smell funny out in public; 2) Girls are the best at picking out potential girlfriends; 3) They are a nurturing comfort if you’ve had a bad day (Another guy will give you a pat on the back and tell you to suck it up).
I know that I am generalizing half the population and there are guys that don’t act like this. This isn’t aimed at you.
Maybe it’s my fault. I do go out and socialize and drink beer. In a man’s mind, does that automatically label me as a sex toy? I don’t think that way about the guys I meet.
Just keep this in mind, guys. A little less action and a little more conversation, please.

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