I have a little secret I would like to let you in on that could probably help everyone achieve the ultimate goal of living a happy life.
Because, in essence, isn’t that what we all want: to just be happy?
I’m not talking about war or congress or the UN. I’m talking about right here and now in each of our lives.
Let’s just leave each other alone.
Why can’t we all mind our own business, thwart drama within our lives and build each other up in kindness.
This can apply to everyone from Christians, Muslims and Jews to the existentialists.
It will make all of our lives better.
The success of the group depends on everyone working toward the same goal.
We are striving as individuals to make the happiest life possible for ourselves.
We must respect and trust that we all want the same thing.
If we just start working on ourselves maybe everyone else can have a better life, too.
If an action or comment does not help the group to achieve the goal then why do we do it?
We need to mind our own business when actions don’t directly involve us.
If we all just learned to think about how these actions would affect others we could be on our way to happiness.
For example, I recently parked illegally on campus.
In my defense, I was only in the building long enough to drop off a couple of papers.
As I left my car a lady exclaimed how angry she was that I had parked there and reported me to public safety.
I was ticketed and paid for the mistake.
But my question is why was she so mad?
It wasn’t hurting her or making her life any more difficult.
If she had ignored me, both of our lives could have been less dramatic that day.
No matter how we perceive the world around us we are living in a world where the philosophy is dog eat dog.
Does that make any of us happy?
In our lives who really needs all of the drama.
I have been directly involved in a drama caused by a very dear friend of mine.
It has cost me more than I would have imagined when it could have easily been avoided.
By trying to fix what I thought was a problem, I made someone else unhappy.
If I had just thought about my actions and stuck to the goal of happiness I would be happy right now.
It is really an easy concept.
I realize the down side is that not everyone defines “happy” like I do.
I realize that a serial killer might find his happiness in murder but that would be an extreme example.
Murderers aren’t happy people to begin with and rarely do their actions produce that emotion.
I’m talking about those of us that accept we have a commitment to mankind.
Bad things happen to everyone be it fate, luck or divine intervention.
My point is we have the power to live a wonderful life. We just haven’t recognized that we are the cause of pain.
What good does it do us to make someone miserable? What good does it do us when we act like children?
No one receives any answers to life’s question through the pain of someone else.
I think everyone will agree that we are all doing the best we can in life.
We all work hard at the things we wish to achieve so why must we belittle someone else who has worked just as hard?
We all know making someone mad or hurting them gets us no where. It helps neither the giver nor the receiver.
If we all really cared, we would fight issues of human injustice but we don’t.
We don’t really care.
We only care when it comes down to us.
The good thing is that this concept can work for that idea too.
If a person just goes about his life not bothering anyone else than I, and more people than will admit it, would have a better life.
It works both ways.
There’s an old cliche that says Why can’t we all just get along?
Why can’t we?
As uncaring and blunt as I am I don’t want to cause anyone else harm or permit them from achieving their goal.
Everyone deserves the right to be happy.

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