It seems if a person is mean or dysfunctional, there’s a reason or there is supposed to be a reason. One cannot just be inherently mean.
Maybe the reason is because of something in their unconscious or something else that stems from a bad childhood.
A current writer for Newsweek and the New York Times, Rick Marin, says sometimes people are just plain mean.
In his new book, “CAD: Confessions of a Toxic Bachelor” Marin says, “I am, by definition, not interesting because I have no advertisable dysfunction”.
Marin’s book could become the creed of the “normal guy” who has been in bad shape since the days of gangsta’ rap and alternative rock.
The alternative rocker had deep issues with parents (or someone) so he was allowed to wear striped socks and have huge gaping holes in the butt of his dirty jeans.
The gangsta’ grew up in the hood and his mecca was Compton. He wore sagging Karl Kani jeans and a rag on his head signifying his gang affiliation.
Both of these types of guys had the leg up on the guy who still listened to Bruce Springsteen and played baseball. The normal guy wore Duck Head clothes and stood in astonishment of the sights he would see walking down the hall before class.
“I was sick of whiny memoirs where people blame everyone but themselves,” Marin says about his book.
The normal guy can’t compete with the sad story. It’s an automatic date-getter. The normal guy’s answer to his distraught past was the strike-out while the bases were juiced. That story is not a date-getter or a book that sells.
Marin said, “CADS are more fun than the knapsack-carrying guy who spends five hours talking about his breakthrough in therapy.”
Instead of inviting the Real World cast to campus to speak we should invite Rick Marin. He could teach the un-CAD males to suck it up and be a man. Take a lesson from Tony Soprano and keep the sad story in the doctor’s office.
Marin’s book chronicles his life from matrimony to divorce to the bachelor life again in Manhattan.
“I originally thought of this as an anti-memoir about a normal guy in a crazy world. Then I realized it’s really boring to write about a normal guy. I had to zest it up,” Marin said.
He learns to enjoy bachelorhood and writes a hilarious and poignant account along the way.

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